Few days back I was speaking to a friend of mine about the
current emotional dynamics in people of my generation. We spoke a lot about the
commitment phobic orientation of the youth regardless of the gender. While
brainstorming on what exactly commitment is, we concluded that commitment is a
simple feeling of accepting the person the way he or she is i.e. with all the
flaws and respecting the differences. It is easy to say that you don’t
understand me and very tough to say that lets try to understand each other. A
small misunderstanding leads to differences for a lifetime. This lack of dedication and commitment is due
to the fact that we are rigid, we want to stick to our shells and yet enjoy the
benefits. The moment we are pulled out of our comfort zones, we snap the ties
and look for an alternative source of happiness. This is not only for
relationships but also for our careers.
Whenever we face a dicey situation or a rough patch, we give up, we do
not fight to survive, and rather we succumb to the situation and kill the
opportunity.
Physics has this famous Law of Inertia, which underlines the
fact that we resist change. We are so unconsciously rigid that any minor change
becomes a struggle for us. Imagine that you stop getting your bed tea, any idea
about the result? Painful headache till you get your tea. This simple logic is
applicable to every change we are subjected to. A situation where we face an unfavorable
result, we are totally dismantled. It
gives us a feeling that world is collapsing and we needed to rush out of the
situation. This approach actually robs the chance of emerging as a winner.
Simple misjudgment and resistance to change takes away our chance to shine.
We generally have the tendency of judging people straight
away. More often than not we do not even try to understand the situation but
reach the conclusions straight away. You hardly know why the person has landed
into such a situation, so stop being calculative about them. Such
miscalculations are often disastrous for us. We should learn to adopt the
thought process that if someone has taken a decision or said something, then
there has to be a concrete reason behind that decision. Learn to accept feedback;
learn to accept someone the way he or she is. Don’t force your thought process
onto everyone. They can’t think like you because they are not you; their
priorities in life are different; their experiences are different. Learn to
agree to disagree. Express your thought but don’t force others to accept your
line of thought. It is very important to co-exist with people of different line
of thought while maintaining your own distinct identity.
Our vision is generally restricted and influenced. The day
we learn to look beyond the horizon, we will learn to accept people around us
with their present realities and challenges. Infact, it would be still a better
world if we acknowledge the fact that there are things beyond the horizon which
we cannot see or understand at this point of time. And eventually, if we try to
understand people around us or situations we face, we can develop the skill of
accepting things and people gracefully with a lot of room for improvement and
learning. And if this happens, there is no looking back from that point, life
will treat you with a lot of respect and happiness will always be around.
